How easy it is for us humans to think we can handle life on our own “I’ve got this,” we say. “No thanks, I’m okay.” “I’m good. I don’t need help.” Been there. Said that. Sometimes still do.
Why do we feel that way? If you are a man, you might have been raised to be tough, never show weakness, and whatever you do, don’t cry! Being raised in the 1950s and 1960s, I may be out of touch with how the 40 and under men were raised. That being said, I still think there is an underlying message that the male gender must be stronger than its softer counterpart.
Then what is a woman’s excuse? We want to appear strong and independent, right? Can you be strong and independent and lean on your friends once in a while? I give a resounding “Yes!” Knowing when you need help from an outside source is not only intelligent, it is the right thing to do. It demonstrates wisdom. And who better to ask for help than your friends? These are people you have chosen to be in your life. Your family may or may not be the people you go to for help. Reaching out to your friends has the multiple benefit of giving you the assistance you need and letting your friends feel valued. What is the downside? There isn’t one!
How do you feel when a friend asks you for help? Isn’t there a part of you that feels honored? I do. Every time.
The truth is that we are not meant to live lives as separate souls struggling on our own. When we truly need help, we must reach out to family and/or friends for assistance, whatever that looks like. It could be financial, emotional support, advice, or just a shoulder, maybe arms for a hug. Your friends, if they are really your friends, will be there for you, ready and willing to provide the help you need, even if that means just listening.
There is a friend you have that you may only think of as a last resort. But He is always available, always by your side, in the good times and bad. Try reaching out to Him, God.
Don’t try to tackle the heavy stuff of life on your own. It does not diminish your inner strength or great ability. If anything, it makes you stronger. The power you have was given to you. Use it to take care of yourself. And if that means occasionally reaching out to others for help, then do it. No man is an island, right?