This is the time of year when we are all filled with love and good cheer. Everything is wonderful because it is a magical season. Not exactly. This is my favorite time of year as I’m sure it is for many of you. However, life still happens . I’m not speaking about tragedies, which for some unknown reason seem to come in higher numbers during this time of year. I’m talking about things that fall into your path as you navigate through your days. Unexpected, uninvited, unwanted things. They happen to all of us. No one is immune. That’s how we are all the same. We’re different in how we respond to these events when they occur. How do you respond ?
One of my favorite sayings, and I honestly don’t remember where I first heard it, is “It’s all good!” This is a wonderful way of affirming that no matter what the situation is, all will be well, just give it some time. When I say it aloud, it actually makes me feel better. It reminds my brain that this is merely a blip on the radar of my life and it, too, shall pass. You really should try it. It will change your outlook.
Does saying “It’s all good” make the bad stuff disappear as if it never happened? No! The “bad stuff” (which we have judged as “bad” – things are not intrinsically bad or good. We call them that.) still exists. It’s standing in front of your face, like a bully. “See what I’m doing to you right now? What do you think of that? I might even get worse!” Yes, these things, these events, do not magically go away when you proclaim that all is well. The change that occurs is inside of you. Your attitude shifts. You’re not so invested in the “bad” any longer. It has lost its power over you.
It’s a little like riding a horse (did you know I would go there?). A horse will often act out hoping you will become either intimidated by them or so frustrated that you give up and get off their back. If you ignore their attempt to frazzle you, they’ll soon realize that they haven’t got the power and will give up. Children are very similar. Parents out there know exactly what I’m talking about.
Saying “It’s all good” doesn’t mean you are ignoring the fact that something just pushed you off your path. You acknowledge it but don’t give it any power over you. You deal with it, calmly if possible, and move on. It doesn’t ruin your day or more importantly, your life.
The world is not against you. If anyone is truly against you it has to be YOU. Ignore the small, inconvenient troubles that get in your way. They’re not worth your time. The bigger things that happen are opportunities to learn and grow. Remember how I said in one of my earlier blogs that we never grow when things are going smoothly? It’s true. You only grow, stretch yourself and learn when you’re faced with challenges. The bigger the challenge, the bigger the lesson and the bigger the growth. That’s how it works.
Know in your heart that all is well, even when it isn’t. You just can’t see the big picture yet. And until you can, remind yourself daily (or more often if necessary) that “It’s all good.” Because it is, really. Trust me. :))